Why did married woman eat breakfast in bed

It was so refreshing to get some quality drama on ITV1 last night following the farce that came before this week's stellar episode of Downton Abbey. Not only was the episode rich with plot and pithy one-liners from the Dowager Countess, but there was so much etiquette to explain, which made me jump for joy as last week's column was rather scant.

Black tie collars Most evening meals at Downton are now Black Tie affairs as around this time in Britain's history men had got rather tired of the rigmarole and effort that went with White Tie.

The origin of Black Tie is hotly debated. The Americans will argue that it was first seen at the Tuxedo Club in New York, and was the doing of Pierre Lorillard and his son Griswold.

Apparently the latter turned up one evening to the club in a bastardised version of White Tie and after the initial cries of shock had died down, men decided they rather liked the idea of something less fussy and formal and so it caught on. We Brits say that it was the Prince of Wales, the future Edward VII, who first wore a similar outfit to an event in Monte Carlo. The jury is out and a definite answer will probably never be found.

Nowadays, when worn correctly, Black Tie involves a turndown collar on a dress shirt. But back in 1920 the dress shirts still had winged collars as it was still morphing from White Tie into what we have now.

There have been many scenes at the breakfast table during the three series - if you cast your minds back to the very first episode of series 1, Lord Grantham was at the breakfast table when he received the letter to inform him of the sinking of the Titanic. In English houses, breakfast was the only meal a gentleman would serve himself and you will see - as in last night's instalment - that the breakfast foods are laid out on the sideboard behind the table. Married ladies would often choose to have breakfast in bed (i.e. they were 'served'), which is why there was the debate as to what Lady Edith should now be doing.

Matthew should have had the bottom button of his waistcoat unfastened in the scene with Lady Mary in the nursery-cum-drawing-room-to-be. This custom is thought to come from the reign of Edward VII - yes, him again. His waistline was ever expanding and so he could not fasten his button, and so it was considered impolite for his courtiers (and then subjects) to fasten theirs.

There was a delicious scene between Carson the butler and footman Alfred involving a test on the different types of spoons. The final spoon - the one that stumped Alfred - was a bouillon spoon, which Carson explained was for the use with soup drunk from bouillon bowls. Alfred commented that he thought a soup spoon was the same size as a table spoon, and he was right. (sort of).

Back in Downton's era soup spoons were huge! They were more or less the size of tablespoons: the soup variety tapered a bit at the end and the handle was shorter. Nowadays our 'soup spoons' are what they would have called bouillon spoons (circular). The bouillon spoons were used when a broth or lighter soup was served - and when it was served there would not be as much to consume and so the spoon was smaller (5 to 5.5 inches long).

Lady Mary now wears a tiara to evening meals. This is because she is now married. Unmarried ladies (like Lady Edith - sorry to bring that up, Edith) did not wear such jewellery and in last night's episode the middle Crawley sister was indeed seen without such an accessory.

I'll let her off as Lady Mary was probably thinking about the unexpected arrival of a sodden Branson, but when she returned to the table she took her seat from the incorrect side (should have been from the right-hand side of the chair).

A few people have asked me what Lady Mary meant when she said 'she came out with me'. No, Lady Mary has not become a lesbian, she is referring to the now-gone practice of 'coming out to court', where girls of good families would be presented at court (in order for suitors to see who was available - it was basically a marriage market! Imagine QVC but with curtseying.)

Finally, although not in the programme itself, in one of the P&O Cruisers sponsor bumpers on ITV1, the bread knife is pointing the wrong way. My friend, and Huffington Post UK blogger Emma Clarke, is the voiceover. I have suggested she resign from future episodes to maintain her integrity.

“Is it not enough that we are sheltering a dangerous revolutionary, Mrs. Hughes? Could you not have spared me that?” asks Carson, the butler, midway through last night’s episode of “Downton Abbey.” That is not the mention of the word prostitute at Downton, the Earl’s middle daughter being jilted at the altar, or even the revolutionary Branson appearing at dinner in his daytime suit. That is an electric toaster, a pincher model according to the Cyber Toaster Museum, with a nickel-plated toast rack on top. “I’ve given it to myself as a treat,” says Mrs. Hughes, the housekeeper, placidly. “If it’s any good, I’m going to suggest getting one for the upstairs breakfasts.”

Carson’s equivalence comes to seem apt, however, when you consider the toaster as a piece of technological comic relief inserted into an episode bursting with new, even revolutionary themes. If the first two episodes of the third season of “Downton Abbey” felt like we were going in circles—wedding, wedding, inheritance—Episode 3 introduces some futuristic motors for the plot. Estate management and modern medicine, suitable jobs for women and what’s to become of the children, all of these will be explored both upstairs and downstairs.

As executive producer Gareth Neame recently told KCRW’s Frances Anderton, he and creator Julian Fellows chose 1912 as the start date for the series because it was the beginning of the modern technological era. And indeed, every season has inserted some piece of technology into the plot, and into the house, modernizing Downton despite itself. In the first season that was the “glare” of the electric chandelier, and the mysterious typewriter that was to provide the housemaid Gwen with a livelihood out of service. In the second, it was the telephone, with its “banshee” ring and useful ability to speed the narrative.

Now, in 1921, there is the toaster, already a decade old in terms of technology. (When the episode was shown in Britain, the toaster even got its own Tumblr.) Scrolling through online histories of toasters, one learns that they don’t reach the level of ornament proper to a noble house until circa 1920. That’s when the toaster shifts from a wiry utilitarian object of the kitchen to something that might be seen on a middle-class breakfast table. And the breakfast table at Downton is a battleground.

A set of four scenes establish the new themes with great economy. First we have Lord Grantham and Matthew Crawley, after dinner, discussing his new role at Downton. “Am I to answer to you both?” Carson asks, his intonation on both similar to the later that. Matthew waves him off. “I have made an investment in the estate. Nothing else will change.” But less than a minute later, when Carson asks after his long-pending second footman, Matthew can’t help but raise a middle-class objection. (Remember all that Season One bother about whether he would or would not accept a valet?) “I sometimes feel the world is rather different than it was before the war …” he muses, only to be cut off and contravened by Lord Grantham. Dishy footman, here we come.

Yet, that “before the war” hangs in the air as he asks Edith, in the next scene, “Why don’t you have breakfast in bed?” “Because I’m not married,” she answers. She’s the only woman at the breakfast table, her mother and sisters upstairs in bed, soon to be served electric toast. She literally has nothing to do. Her father, hogging the paper, is kind enough to offer this tidbit of news: Tennessee is going to ratify the Nineteenth Amendment. In America, all women can vote. “More than I can say,” drawls Edith. “You should write to the Times,” says Matthew. “Go and ask your mother if she needs any help with the dinner,” says Lord Crawley, ending the discussion.

It is no accident that it’s the women who seem to be the chief users and beneficiaries of each new technology. Gwen types, Mrs. Hughes toasts, Edith decides that if she can’t read her own newspaper, she might as well write for it. We see our pet conservatives, Lord Grantham, Carson, Lady Mary, Alfred the footman, trying to deny the passage of time. But for the Ediths of the world, a change of company at breakfast can’t come soon enough. As the Dowager Countess says, in words my mother definitely uttered during my own whiny adolescence, “There must be something you can put your mind to!” During the war, Lady Edith and Lady Sybil found much to do. Now they are reduced to sighing and supporting. In the same interview on KCRW, Neame says, “Women had no function except to change outfits…They would change five or six times a day, and they needed maids to get their clothes ready. They employed an army of people to help them.”

In offhand remarks and blunt statements, this season marks the beginning of the argument that the aristocratic estate is essentially a one-industry town. If the first season of “Downton Abbey” was about falling in love with a house, Season 3 is about keeping that house not just through deus ex machina inheritances, but through spread-sheets and earnings reports. “I feel a duty to do what I can,” says Matthew. Is the hiring of a second footman a public obligation? Can you fire an old farmer? Or should they really move to Downton Place, and do without a valet? Branson articulates the democratic side most bluntly: “When I see these houses, I don’t see charm and grace. I see something horrible.” At Downton, it’s the dawn of managerial revolution, aristocrat-style.