With all the pieces included in a wedding stationery set, it might be easy to overlook the envelopes. But according to Deborah Lau-Yu, founder of Palettera Custom Correspondences, envelopes (and the way you address them) can say a lot about the tone of your wedding. Show
"A lot of people want to save money, and yes, that's important," Lau-Yu says. "You can try to print the envelopes yourself, but home printers aren't perfect. If you spent money on your invitations, it can cheapen them if you have a label that's shifted," she adds. This is why Lau-Yu recommends that couples have their envelopes professionally addressed in typography or calligraphy by their stationery designer. "When it's printed in beautiful script or font, it shows something special," she explains. The details of how your envelopes are printed are just as important as what is printed. Lau-Yu tells couples that the most important thing is to always be intentional when it comes to addressing their guests. "Weddings are sacred things," she says. "Having your envelopes properly labelled conveys respect, properness and sacredness." Here are some tips to keep in mind when addressing your invitations:
When in doubt, ask your stationery designer for advice on how you should address your envelopes. Couples usually go through their guest list to specify the envelope labeling to their stationery designer. Palettera, for example, gives couples a template to use as a guideline when they're choosing how to label their envelopes. "With all the junk mail we get, printing a name on an envelope is not seen as precious," Lau-Yu says. "When you have something with your own name printed beautifully, it shows something special." Here are some examples of templates you can use for addressing your envelopes: For a married couple using different names: Put the names on two separate lines, alphabetically. Mrs. Jane Doe Mr. John Smith For a married couple using the same last name: Put the names on one line, acknowledging both first names. Mr. and Mrs. Peter and Amy Chan For an unmarried couple living in the same household: Put the names on two separate lines. Mr. Jason Diaz Ms. Ella Jones For a family living in the same household, with children under 18: Mr. and Mrs. Todd and Lily Woods and children or Write the children's names out in order of birth. Mr. and Mrs. Todd and Lily Woods Miss Danielle Woods Mr. Ryder Woods or If inviting the entire family, or if it is a large family where the names would not fit on the envelope, write: The Woods Family For a family living in the same household, with children over 18: Give the parents and each child over 18 their own invitations and address them individually. or Send one invitation addressing the whole family. For a family living in the same household, with some children under 18 and some over 18: Give the parents and the children under 18 a separate invitation from the children over 18. Mr. and Mrs. Derek and Aliya Mohan Miss Aisha Mohan And a separate invitation for Mr. Ian Mohan or One invitation for the whole family. Your wedding invitations are formal invitations and must be written with great care. The invitations hold the power of the first impression of your wedding. So give the task its time, start early and do not rush it. Here are some guidelines to help you with the task; Always address persons by their correct title. For example Mr., Miss or Mrs. Ms. is the correct title to use when a woman’s marriage status does not need to be disclosed. Ms. is ideal when addressing a widow or a divorcee. Nicknames and abbreviations should not be used. Below is a list of courtesy titles most commonly used. In this example the guest’s name is Kevin Borg and his wife is Mary Borg. In some cases we use Mary’s maiden surname, Falzon, as an example of a woman who kept her maiden surname. Inv and Env stand for Invitation and Envelope respectively. Please Note: This information is for general guidelines only. Please consult your wedding invitations’ supplier / printer in case of difficulty. Married CoupleInv: Mr. and Mrs. Kevin Borg (Whilst the above format is the correct way of addressing any invitation envelope according to proper etiquette, many persons are not used to it. You might prefer to use the more common format – Married Couple and their ChildrenInv: Mr. and Mrs. Kevin Borg and Family Married Couple – Wife kept her maiden surnameInv: Mr Kevin Borg and Mrs Mary Falzon Husband is a doctor (MD)Inv: Doctor Kevin Borg & Mrs.
Borg Wife is a doctor (MD)Inv: Mr.Kevin Borg and Doctor Mary Borg Wife is a doctor (MD) – kept maiden surnameInv: Mr.Kevin Borg and Doctor Mary Falzon Husband is a LawyerInv: Dr. Kevin Borg & Mrs. Borg Wife is a LawyerInv: Mr.Kevin Borg and Dr.Mary Borg Wife is a Lawyer – kept maiden surnameInv: Mr.Kevin Borg and Dr.Mary Falzon BA LLD Married couple, both DoctorsInv: Drs. Kevin and Mary
Borg Married couple, both Doctors (kept maiden surname)Inv: Drs. Kevin and Mary Borg Husband is a JudgeInv: The Hon. Mr. Justice Kevin Borg & Mrs. Borg Husband is a LieutenantInv: Lieutenant Kevin Borg and Mrs. Borg Env: Mrs. K. Borg (Mrs. Mary Falzon if she kept her maiden surname) Wife is a LieutenantInv: Mr. Kevin Borg and Lieutenant Mary Borg Husband is a MajorInv: Major Kevin Borg and Mrs. Borg Wife is a MajorInv: Mr. Kevin Borg and Mayor Mary Borg Unmarried couple living togetherInv: Miss Mary Falzon, Mr. Kevin Borg Divorced female (kept maiden surname)Inv: Ms. Mary Borg Divorced female (reclaimed maiden surname)Inv: Ms. Mary Falzon Woman is a widowInv: Mrs. Mary Borg Unmarried female (and boyfriend/guest)Inv: Miss Mary Falzon Env: Miss Mary Falzon Sisters living togetherInv: Ms. Mary Falzon and Ms. Anna Falzon Sisters living together, one is a widowInv: Mrs Mary Borg and Ms Anna Falzon Friends living togetherInv: Miss Mary
Borg and Miss Anna Falzon Clergy maleInv: Fr. Kevin Borg Teenage girl under 18 yearsInv: Mary Falzon or Miss Mary Falzon Teenage boy under 18 yearsInv:
Kevin Borg or Master Kevin Borg ‘Children’ over 18 years:Inv: Mr. Kevin Borg (or Miss Mary Falzon) Do you put the husband or wife's name first?NOTE: Traditionally, a woman's name preceded a man's on an envelope address, and his first and surname were not separated (Jane and John Kelly). Nowadays, the order of the names—whether his name or hers comes first—does not matter and either way is acceptable.
How do you write names on a wedding invitation?ADDITIONAL FORMAL ADDRESSING ETIQUETTE RULES. Use formal names (no nicknames).. Middle names aren't necessary, but must be spelled out if used (no initials).. Spell out all words such as Apartment, Avenue, Street, etc.. Abbreviate Mr., Mrs., Ms. and Jr.. Write out professional titles such as Doctor or Professor.. How do you address a wedding invitation with multiple names?James Smith and Guest,” the two envelope system works well. Address the outer envelope to “Mr. James Smith” and the inner envelope to “Mr. James Smith and Guest.” If you're only using one envelope, include a short note with your invitation: “Dear James, You're welcome to bring a guest to the wedding.
Do you have to put Mr and Mrs on wedding invitations?Use Titles if You Wish
A title is a marker of respect and formality, but they are not appropriate for everyone. If applicable and what your guest would prefer, feel free to use Mr., Mrs., Ms., or otherwise for your guests.
|