Does my coworker have a secret crush on me

1. He always happens to take his lunch break at the same time as you. So convenient, right? Whether it's striking up a conversation with you on line in the work cafeteria or offering you a ride to go grab burritos, if he's taking these opportunities to capitalize on socializing time at work, there's a reason.

2. He also happens to show up to work around the same time. Maybe he even runs into you down at the coffee shop you always stop at before work. If it seems like he just sorta knows your schedule and happens to time his morning routine right as an excuse to see you, that's a good indicator.

3. He always finds reasons to walk over to where you sit, even if it's not his department. Is he always hand-delivering documents? Unless your work crush is 60 and afraid of emails, that's weird. 

4. He grabs you lunch a lot when you're too busy. This is something nice people do, but it's also something people who want to bang do. To be fair, it's also totally something nice people who also want to bang you do too.

5. His shifts mysteriously seem to align with yours. You rescheduled your Sunday shift to Monday? So weird, he was just emailing your manager to request the same thing...

6. He always wants to know if you're going to work functions. He plays it off all casual as if he isn't sure he's going to go, but he never commits unless he knows you'll be there. "Maybe we could go together?" he asks, with all this chill. But in his head, he's freaking out.

7. Or he's always trying to organize drinks after work. He's too nervous to just ask you out, so instead he asks a lot of people and also you. Because that's less weird, I guess.

8. He swoops in whenever you're stuck dealing with an annoying customer. "Why yes, ma'am, I can make you a triple-shot, double-foam, gluten-free, vegan Frappuccino with half a teaspoon of cinnamon and room for milk, no problem."

9. He's always finding reasons to email you about work-related projects. And then those email chains just devolve into non-work-related funny GIFS.

10. He's told you he'd quit too if you ever left. You're actually pretty sure he only hangs around because you're there. He seems to hate this job otherwise.

11. You've got your own secret code words for people in the office. Hell, you've got your own language and inside jokes.

12. You're the only one he really vents to. Your relationship definitely feels deeper than "just coworkers."

13. He covers for you if you're running late. If he's distracted your boss while you snuck over to your desk hungover and late on a Friday morning, you've found a keeper.

14. You showing up to work perks him up more than the coffee does. And so does you getting him coffee. Y'all are coffee buds. Some people would consider that basically sleeping with each other.

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Last updated on July 28, 2022 by Sonya Schwartz. 

Are you wondering whether a male co-worker is attracted to you?

Perhaps you’re struggling to tell whether he’s flirting or just really helpful?

Maybe you’d make a move on him if you knew he was interested, but you’re worried about misreading the signs in a professional environment? 

If so, read on because this guide will reveal the telltale signs that a work colleague is attracted to you.  

However, before we do, I wanted to tell you about an important piece of male psychology that could help you. 

It’s called the ‘Hero’s Instinct’ - and it has a huge impact on how men feel about the women in their life. 

If you could learn how to activate this primal instinct inside of him, it can do a lot to have him start seeing you as more than a colleague.

This psychological trigger releases feelings of empowerment and purpose inside a man. It’s natural that he becomes drawn to a woman who makes him feel this way. 

It helped me bag the man of my dreams. To learn how it could do the same for you, read my personal story. 

The best thing about the ‘Hero’s Instinct’ is that it seems to work on almost any man - and it’s so easy to do once you know how. 

If you’re looking for an edge that attracts fantastic men to you, I’d urge you to learn how I discovered the power of the ‘Hero’s Instinct’. 

Of course, it could be that this guy is already attracted to you.

If he’s showing one or more of the signs listed below, this is likely to be the case.

Contents

• 1 Signs A Male Coworker Likes You
  • 1.1 1. Watch his body language
  • 1.2 2. He asks about your personal life
  • 1.3 3. He makes sure to spend time with just you
  • 1.4 4. His tone changes when you’re around
  • 1.5 5. He stares at you
  • 1.6 6. You can feel the sexual tension between the two of you
  • 1.7 7. Physical contact
  • 1.8 8. He doesn’t break eye contact
  • 1.9 9. You two have inside jokes
  • 1.10 10. Talking to you daily
  • 1.11 11. He notices changes in your appearance
  • 1.12 12. He’s acting weird
  • 1.13 13. He maintains eye contact
  • 1.14 14. Asking you personal questions
  • 1.15 15. He volunteers to work with you
  • 1.16 16. Offers to carpool
  • 1.17 17. Hanging out outside of work
  • 1.18 18. Compliments
  • 1.19 19. He tries to be your dream guy
  • 1.20 20. He’s jealous
  • 1.21 21. He takes off his wedding ring
  • 1.22 22. Everyone else seems to know that he likes you
  • 1.23 23. He smiles at you
  • 1.24 24. He’s there for you
  • 1.25 25. He’s suddenly on your social media
  • 1.26 26. He doesn’t like the idea of you switching jobs
  • 1.27 27. He’s always on your side
  • 1.28 28. He looks a lot better
  • 1.29 29. He tries to fix things for you
  • 1.30 30. You keep running into him
  • 1.31 31. He acts differently toward you
• 2 FAQs
• 3 In Conclusion

Signs A Male Coworker Likes You

Men, by nature, tend to be polite to women. It can make it hard to tell whether your male coworker is being polite or if your male coworker likes you more than a friend. 

However, there are some key signs to look for that can help you determine what’s going through his mind. 

If you’re wondering whether a male coworker likes you, there are a few key ways to tell. However, most men won’t want other coworkers to catch on to the fact that they like you until they are sure that you like them back. Because of that, you’ll need to pay close attention to these signs a male coworker likes you. 

1. Watch his body language

We all project certain things we are thinking or feeling via our body language. Men tend to do certain things when they are interested in a woman. Their body language can tell you what they think of you, and whether they’re interested in just sex or something more serious. 

One of the most obvious body language signs a male coworker likes you is that he has a peacock stance. Men tend to do this when they like a woman. He’ll push his shoulders back and stick his chest out further. 

Another key indicator that he likes you is that he will spread his legs. This is typically a sign that he wants to sleep with you, but most of the time a man that likes you also wants to sleep with you. 

When a male coworker is interested in you, he will point his body towards you. His feet will point towards you, and he might turn his entire body in your direction even though he’s talking to someone else. 

It’s important to watch out for more than one body language sign that he likes you, and make sure that you’re not sitting next to other people. This will instantly help you determine whether your male colleague likes you more than a friend. 

2. He asks about your personal life

If your male coworker likes you, he’ll want to know if you’re available. He may want to be friends on social media so that he can check out your relationship status. Another thing that’s common is that a male coworker will mention your boyfriend in conversation as though he knows that you have one. This opens the door for you to tell him that you don’t without him having to ask direct questions about your personal life. 

It’s normal for people at the office to talk to one another. Small talk is common. However, it is pretty rare for a man that doesn’t like you to ask about your life outside of work or if you have a boyfriend. 

3. He makes sure to spend time with just you

When he finds out that you’re staying late at work, he’ll offer to pick up dinner. If he hears that you’re going to be at the office without other coworkers, he doesn’t mind re-arranging his entire schedule to make sure that he’s there with you. 

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A male coworker might come up with an excuse, such as he would hate for you to be at work alone or he wants you to be safe, but really he just wants to enjoy some one-on-one time with you. Be wary if you have a married male coworker that is doing this. That instantly can lead to trouble at work. 

4. His tone changes when you’re around

When we are around certain people that we like, our tone changes. Most people do this without realizing it. His tone will usually get deeper when the two of you spend time alone. This is one of the subtle signs that a guy likes you as more than a friend. 

5. He stares at you

This is another one of the subtle signs to watch out for. It’s an obvious sign that he likes you but doesn’t want to risk ruining a professional relationship. He may also be shy and not ready to approach you just yet. 

In general, we look at things that we like. This may be a person or our favorite food. You may catch him staring when he doesn’t realize that you’re looking or when you walk past him. 

6. You can feel the sexual tension between the two of you

Every time that you’re around one particular male coworker, you can’t help but feel the spark of sexual tension. You both feel awkward about it, but you can also both tell that it’s there.

If the two of you feel drawn to one another, it’s because he likes you. However, keep in mind that this is likely because you like him too. 

7. Physical contact

When a guy likes you, they find little reasons to touch you. He might put his hand on your arm or leg while he’s talking to you. He may accidentally brush up against you as he walks past you. Some men will take this step a bit further and subtly touch when no one else is looking. For example, he will put his hand on your back while the two of you stand in an elevator. This is a sure sign that he likes you. 

You may notice that he tries to sit next to you whenever possible. This makes it easier for him to have physical contact with you or “accidentally” brush up against you. 

8. He doesn’t break eye contact

A guy’s body language can tell you a lot about how he feels. When a man looks you in the eye, it’s a subtle sign that he’s listening to what you’re saying. However, most men will look away when other colleagues are talking. 

If he doesn’t look away, it’s because he’s so lost in your eyes that he simply can’t help it. He may be mesmerized by you. This could also be his way of secretly flirting with you without other people knowing. If you feel the same way, give him a brief smile before looking away. 

9. You two have inside jokes

When a guy shares inside jokes with you that his other work colleagues aren’t in on, it’s a clear sign that he likes you as more than a friend. Men do this to make you feel special. They want to have something to giggle with you about. More than anything, it’s a way of getting closer to you.

10. Talking to you daily

If spending time with you is off the table, he will still find a way to let you know that he is interested. You may be the first person he talks to when he gets to the office. He’ll make it a point to be there when you’re having a bad day, and congratulate you on a promotion to let you know he’s paying attention. This is a huge sign that he likes you. 

11. He notices changes in your appearance

When a man notices that something has changed, it’s because he’s paying attention to you. He may notice major changes, such as a new haircut. A man that likes you will notice small things as well, such as a new pair of earrings or a new handbag. This is one of the telltale signs that he likes you. 

12. He’s acting weird

When a man likes someone at work, they may not know how to act. Hitting on you or asking about your personal life could spell trouble for his professional life, and the last thing he wants is to have a talk with human resources. 

He may act perfectly normal towards other coworkers but suddenly be awkward when you’re around. His body language tells you that he hates you and is closed off to you because he’s trying to make it look like he doesn’t like you. 

Another thing men may do is start acting nervous around you. For example, he may start fidgeting or suddenly have sweaty palms. Instead of him looking you in the eye as mentioned earlier, he is more likely to look down at the floor. This is because he doesn’t quite know how to act around you or what to do with all of his nervous energy. Pay attention to his behavior patterns to see if he acts like this around other people or if it’s just you. 

13. He maintains eye contact

This is a casual way of flirting without you being able to report him to human resources. Seeing how you react to his eye contact can let him know whether you like him back or would prefer that he remain nothing more than a work colleague. 

14. Asking you personal questions

Most guys will want to get to know you a bit before risking things going wrong with a workplace romance. If he starts asking you questions to get to know you better, it’s a good sign. 

These include any questions that are not related to work. For example, he may ask about your favorite color or what type of foods you like. When he does this, he’ll do it the same way any guy would if they want to get to know you. 

15. He volunteers to work with you

If he can’t seem to find time to be one on one with you, he’ll volunteer to work with you. This may involve him wanting to work on a company project with you. He will pitch in to help you, or volunteer to work overtime when he finds out that you’re working, too. 

16. Offers to carpool

This is a great way for a guy to get to know you and determine whether you like them or not. He can speak freely while the two of you ride back and forth to work. If he mentions the two of you riding together to work, it’s a good sign. 

It’s important to watch for other signs that your coworker likes you instead of relying too heavily on this one small sign. Some people are really trying to save money by splitting gas money, so keep that in mind. 

17. Hanging out outside of work

Wanting to hang out outside of work is encouraged in some work cultures. It helps everyone feel like a family. However, if a coworker likes you, they will try to spend time with you alone outside of work. Pay attention to whether they are being nice and inviting you along with the group or whether they are trying to get you alone. This is one of the sure signs that a coworker likes you. 

18. Compliments

It’s common for someone to compliment a major change, like a new hair color. A guy that likes you will take it to the next level. You’ll find that he constantly compliments you, whether it’s on your smile or simply your amazing style. 

19. He tries to be your dream guy

In the midst of talking as work friends, you may have mentioned problems with previous boyfriends or what you would like in a new relationship. Then, you can’t help but notice that he starts pretending to be that guy. It’s because he’s been listening, and wants you to be interested in him. 

20. He’s jealous

Jealousy is one of the surefire signs that a man likes you. He won’t like anyone else talking to you about things other than work stuff. If a guy asks you a question, he will want to know what the two of you were talking about. Harmless flirting with anyone else will clearly irritate him. 

While a jealous man might not show that he’s irritated or talk about his true feelings, you can pick up on his subtle hints. He may try to distract you by asking for your help. Another common sign that the green-eyed monster is coming to the surface is that he will try to show off and one up the other man that you’re talking to. 

21. He takes off his wedding ring

A married man that is trying to have an affair might not want to let you know that he’s married. Because of this, he’ll take off his wedding ring in an attempt to hide his marriage. This is one of the clear signs that he’s into you, and it’s a sign that you need to stay away from him. Sleeping with a married man that you work with can create chaos in your work environment. It can have an impact on your current job and your mental health. 

22. Everyone else seems to know that he likes you

Usually, we’re the last ones to figure out that a guy likes us. Other people will recognize all of the signs and talk about it before you put two and two together. They might ask you if you are interested in him, or tease you about the two of you getting together. It’s common for at least one coworker to let you know if he’s known for sleeping with all of the new girls, too. 

23. He smiles at you

It’s considered polite for a guy to smile at you if you smile at him first. A man that likes you will be the one to smile first, though. As soon as you meet his gaze he will grin ear to ear. He might casually smile at you and no one else. This is a big sign that he likes you, and that he thinks you are beautiful. 

24. He’s there for you

This is the guy that’s always there for you at work. When you need office supplies, he doesn’t mind picking them up and bringing them to you. He makes sure to grab your favorite type of coffee and brings it to your desk. 

Most guys will take this a step further at times, too. He will be supportive of your efforts. You’ll hear him saying that your presentation is wonderful, and you can always ask his opinion on anything. 

If a coworker is showing all the signs that he likes you and you suddenly get a friend request from him, you can trust that he likes you. Even if you don’t see any other signs, you can tell how much he likes you by his reactions to your social media posts. He will like or heart react to your posts. If he starts heart reacting to your pictures from a long time ago, it’s a sure-fire sign that he likes you as more than a friend. 

26. He doesn’t like the idea of you switching jobs

If your male colleague is still only seeing you at work, he won’t like the thought of you switching jobs. Instead, he’ll try to dissuade you from a career change. He may encourage you to simply wait a few months. 

That’s because he doesn’t want to stop seeing you. He would much rather you wait to give him the chance to be around you more and to hopefully take things to the next level before you leave the workplace. 

27. He’s always on your side

When there is a workplace drama, he’s always on your team. If people say bad things about you, you can trust that he won’t mind standing up for you. In the middle of a meeting, he’ll say that your idea is the best idea. This is just one more way that a guy that likes you is supportive of you. 

28. He looks a lot better

If you’ve noticed that a male colleague has suddenly upped his game, it could be because he likes you. His hair will look neater. He’s suddenly wearing new suits and has learned how to accessorize. He wants to catch your eye, and he knows that looking good is a great way to impress you. 

29. He tries to fix things for you

A great way to see how much a male colleague likes you is by complaining about something real quick in front of them. Men who like you want to fix your problems. He’ll either jump in to fix the situation for you or instantly give you advice so that you can handle it yourself. 

30. You keep running into him

When you first started your job, you didn’t know this guy existed. Now, all of the sudden, you keep seeing the same male colleague everywhere that you go. He’s doing this intentionally. Men who like you tend to feel drawn to you, so he’ll find a way for the two of you to run into each other. 

Some men will go out of their way to make sure that the two of you run into each other. He may change his schedule so that the two of you have lunch at the same time. He could work late or ask to participate in a committee that he knows you are on. There are quite a few ways he might maneuver things to make an effort to see you. 

31. He acts differently toward you

Men who like you won’t treat you like one of the guys. Instead, they will be protective over you and your feelings. He’ll be careful not to say anything that will offend you or make dirty jokes when you’re around. He’s being a gentleman because he likes you. 

He may act nervous or awkward. On the other hand, he may act very nice because he’s trying to put his best foot forward to impress you. One way or another, he doesn’t treat you like he does everyone else. 

To determine whether he’s doing this, simply watch him when he doesn’t know that you’re in the room. Then, walk past him and see if his behavior changes. It will usually be such a dramatic change that you can’t help but notice it. 

FAQs

How do you tell if a coworker is interested or just being friendly?

When a coworker is interested in you, they’ll make more of an effort to be nice to you than they are everyone else. Look at their body language, too. People often can’t help but show that they are interested in someone when it comes to their body language.

How do you tell if a man is attracted to you but hiding it at work?

He’ll treat you differently than he does other people. When you’re around, he’ll act nervous or awkward. He may act nicer. A guy that likes you will smile at you more. He’ll try to see you when no one else is around, and ask about your life outside of work to get to know you.

What are the signs that a man likes you?

Men show you several signs that they like you. He’ll pay more attention to his appearance. When you’re around, he can’t take his eyes off of you and will smile more. You’ll notice that you keep running into him, even though you don’t do it on purpose.

What is unspoken attraction?

Unspoken attraction is when two people like each other, but they don’t mention it to anyone, including one another. However, they will still feel the chemistry and sexual tension between them when they are close. They will both show signs that they are attracted to each other, too.

How do you know if a man finds you attractive?

He will stare at you. A man that finds you attractive is more likely to smile at you. We tend to smile at things that we like, so that’s a great sign! Guys that think you are attractive will talk to you or go out of their way to be around you. He’ll happily help you solve your problems, too.

In Conclusion

When a male colleague has a crush on you, it can be hard to spot the signs because he is trying to show you he likes you while maintaining a professional appearance to everyone else at the office. Have you ever had a man at work like you? How did you know how he felt?

Do you feel like all you think about is him, but he only thinks about himself?
This doesn't mean he doesn't like you. You have to understand how he is wired. Once you do, you'll find there is a subtle thing you can say that to him that will drastically change how he shows his emotions towards you.

Take this quick quiz that looks at whether he actually likes you or not!

Sonya Schwartz

A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

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